Good movie, but best of all time? Hardly . . .

Best movie ever!

This is a coming of age storyline that you've seen in one form or another for decades. It takes a truly unique voice to make yet another one worth watching.

Although I seem to have had higher expectations than I thought, the movie is super entertaining.

As might be suspected from its title, this documentary was filmed largely - but not exclusively - in New York. There is a perennial question who's Jew? but this is one that never arises for the Hasidim, especially the men, who are immediately and always identifiable as such by their distinctive black garb.Unlike most immigrants, the Hasidim have not become part of the American (so-called) melting pot, retaining not only their dress and their religion but their culture including the distinctive Yiddish language. Because of this they have to live in close proximity with each other, and their large families, sometimes with upwards of ten children, can also be a financial strain.There have though been some minor concessions to assimilation, at least as far as working in the outside world is concerned. Criticism of Hasidism comes from a black New Yorker who interprets their distance as spiritual arrogance, but this belief is clearly misplaced; what is so terrible about a man who tells you he prays for "you people" too?Other criticism comes from secular or at least less orthodox Jews, including one woman who quit the tribe to make her own way in the world. Horses for courses, just as debauchery is not for everyone, neither is spirituality. There is no reason today's woman whatever her background should not be independent, but beyond the arranged marriages is a culture that venerates the position of especially the mother, which is probably the reason one of the mothers interviewed here laughed at what she rightly considers the ludicrous concept of women's liberation.

The documentary covers interviews with many Hassidic Jews, most living in NYC, some who have survived concentration camps and their descendants. It focuses on the Hassicdic way of life, the relationship of the individual with its community, and the relationship (or lack there of) of the Hassidic community with "America." It also tries to explain, sometimes through interviews with Hassidic individuals, and sometimes with the interviews with experts who study Jewish and Hassidic culture and history, the hard decisions the community and the "Rebes" had to take to come to America and to survive, as a closed culture, in America. There are interviews also with "outsiders," an ex-Hassidic Jew and a very vocal and articulate black man (who happens to be a city parks and rec employee, if I remember correctly.) The documentary answered some of my questions about how the Hassidic community survives. I was not sure if they went to college and university; the documentary makes it clear that the movement of Hassidim was basically an "anti-education" movement. In other Jewish cultures, education is highly encouraged. So some felt left out, as they were from rural areas and did not have access to higher education, so Hassidim was born to include those people. However, it seems to have gone to the other extreme of actually encouraging lack of education. This, of course, has a huge impact on the community, as it leaves the whole community, except for a few businessman who make it, very poor. On top of it, the emphasis on having many children further impoverishes the community. But what nobody mentions is how such a community and its many many children are affecting the whole system, especially the health system.Perhaps the most interesting two interviews are with a woman at the very beginning, who says "we take no minor or major decisions without asking our Rebe." confirming that in such a repressive and closed society the adults are a bunch of children who refuse to grow up and have to refer to another person for every little decision they make. From all other interviews, it is clear these Rebes are worshiped. Someone says "He is king." another says, "We are just crazy about everything he says, he does." Another tries to tell us how there are different roles for everyone in Hassidim, like children and adults, and then you cannot help but think that the only people allowed to be adults are the Rebes and all others are little children in adult form. Another interview that is hilarious and unbelievable is a young man (who I believe eventually became an antique appraiser?) who says "I just wanted to study (the Torah) you know, so I wanted just a rich girl. What do I know about girls, I just wanted to keep studying and she puts supper on the table." So the women cook, clean, rear children, so that the men can "study" all day long. This does not seem to be everyone's opinion, but more wishful thinking. "If they could, they would," kind of situation...No matter what you believe, this documentary is a good peek into a secluded and willfully-ignorant and closed religious community who think they are superior to all others. It's fascinating.The one thing I could not understand is the Hassidic women in the film were much more liberal in their dress code than the Hassidic women I see in 2011 walking around in Brooklyn and Manhattan. In the doc these women are wearing flowery dresses, big 80s-like haircuts, no hair nets. The Hassidic women I see always wear black or dark colored, plain dresses and cover their heads. There was even a Hassidic man who smiled and said "hello" to a black cop, which would have floored me if I saw it happen now. I have NEVER EVER seen a Hassidic anyone SMILE, let alone make eye contact, with a non-Hassidic person on the street. This is something they learn early on, as even the children avoid eye contact with others. A smile? As the professor in the doc says, maybe only those who work at B&H (that is the store he is referring to, where Hassidic men work selling electronics in midtown.)

This movie was an amazing look at Hasidism, the extreme Jewish group that behave and dress in a rather bizarre manner. The movie reminded me of Jesus Camp, a horror documentary about the indoctrination of Christian children. A Life Apart is similar in the respect that it involves indoctrination of vulnerable Jewish children. This branch of Judaism can only be considered an anachronism and projects an exclusivity that is rather frightening. The manner in which they lived, particularly in Eastern Europe, invited persecution.Like most religions, Hasidism is patriarchal and women are relegated to a role of being essentially baby machines. The average family has ten children which results in an economic burden for most families. They have their own schools, and like all church schools, library books are rigidly censored. Members of this cult, and it is a cult, don't interact with other members of society and believe that they are superior to any other. The clothing worn by the men is dreadful as is the strange head-ware and they appear to have a fetish about beards and hair. Most of the men wear thick coke-bottle glasses.I found the movie fascinating but these people are from another era. I find their society very similar to that of Islam a religion with which they are in constant conflict. I came away from this film feeling very sorry for the members trapped within it and particularly for the children. Very sad but an eye opener.

Not being a New York City native, I can't recall ever having had any interactions with Hasidic Jews. Sure, on trips to the Big Apple, I've seen them on the streets here and there but like most in my country, I know very little about them--especially since this sect of Judaism is one that generally avoids the media and lives in small tight-knit enclaves in New York and a few other places in the world--not here where I live in Florida. So, because of my ignorance, I really liked being able to have a rare glimpse into their community and families. Despite wanting to be very separate culturally, these people seemed generally open to explaining to others their customs and lifestyle. For that, I felt like I'd been granted a rare privilege and it would be nice to see more films like this. I've heard that there are similar films about the Amish and Muslims--these would be a nice complement to this film.The part I appreciated the most were interviews with non-Jews. Listening to their suspicions and trepidation about these people and then seeing that there really isn't anything to fear about Hasidism was a nice opportunity.As far as the film goes technically, it was well-constructed--with nice music, appropriate interviews and a nice gentle pacing. All this left me with an admiration, of sorts, for these gentle people.